We all attach ourselves to stories; mostly it is how we connect ourselves and others to the understanding of who we are and why we think and feel the way we do. But it can be the stories that we tell ourselves and others that can lure us into the circle of drama and conflict and it is the stories that can quickly sever us from our heart centre; our connection to ourselves and others. And with this detachment every new statement involved in the stories or conversation we have with ourselves or others whips us up within its powerful forces until we find ourselves spinning with the debris of all the thoughts thought, the words spoken, and even the anticipated ones, that can see us acting out our emotions intensely.Emotions. We all have them, we all experience them and more often than not we all fall into the trap of heavily attaching to the stories connected to the emotions. Our stories often grow and grow until they provide the illusion that our emotions are rapidly getting away from us and that their expression has reached an unhealthy dramatic height. But it is in fact the stories that have gotten away with us and become the vehicle that has transported the emotions to the heightened state of drama and the stories are the unhealthy aspect, not the emotions. In fact our emotions are simply trying to alert us to something; we just can’t receive the transmission over the noise our stories have created.
But it is in fact the stories that have gotten away with us and become the vehicle that has transported the emotions to the heightened state of drama and the stories are the unhealthy aspect, not the emotions.
Anger, sadness, resentment, disgust, spite, mistrust and fear. I woke the other day with all of these emotions surging through me, mostly anger. And can I tell you, they were fierce. I felt explosive and fragile and I knew I had to move the energy through me without causing someone else harm. But before I could move the energy through I needed to detach from the story and move back into my heart space so that I could understand what my emotions were trying to tell me.
If we can recognise that the stories are in fact the vehicle that takes our emotions to a state of heightened drama then we can learn to quieten the stories and detach from them, come into a more heart centred space and receive what our emotions are trying to covey to us.
Now, as usual these emotions turned up at what felt like the least opportune time and the only space I could find for this introspection was in our kitchen in our little house. I could feel the stories building “this is ridiculous, our house is so small! Can’t they all see I need space? He is making that noise deliberately so I can’t focus!” you name it; the stories were coming thick and fast. But without engaging in them and with the acceptance of the space I had to work with I buried my headphones into my ears and was quickly flooded with the calming music I had chosen. And while my little family buzzed around me I felt my body relax and I slowly detached from the chaos around me as I focused on my breath. And as I continued to focus on my breath I dropped from my head into my heart space and began to feel into and explore my emotions. It wasn’t long before I realised they weren’t coupled to the provocative stories of myself or another doing or saying this or that, which I could’ve literally exploded at had I been tempted into them, but they were actually attached to my lack of boundaries, my lack of asking for what I needed, and my fear was around surrendering into my personal growth and the massive transition I was going through. Strong guidance came though that I didn’t need to engage with the stories or be enticed into the circle of drama but rather detach from the old and move on to uncovering more of myself through further exploration of what my emotions had revealed to me. And with this my energy was more relaxed and I was able to communicate my truth and connect with my family in a more authentic way than if I’d chosen the temptation of the drama that the stories brought with them.
If we can recognise that the stories are in fact the vehicle that takes our emotions to a state of heightened drama then we can learn to quieten the stories and detach from them, come into a more heart centred space and receive what our emotions are trying to covey to us. So explore your emotions, not the stories and listen carefully to what they are trying to say. As they are looking out for you and simply wanting to help you be more healthily attached to your truth and your connection to yourself and others.
From my heart to yours