To most of us it feels like second nature or feels safer to hide away our thoughts and opinions, our wants and our needs, our dreams. To bury our pain and dim our light, to hide away our quirks, our illnesses or what we consider as our flaws. We believe that if we are doing more for others that we are deepening our love and connection to them, in the hope that they will love and accept us as their lover, friend, child or parent. Our anxieties build around maintaining the facade of the person that we have offered up as ourselves. This leaves us to experience surface encounters and relationships, out of fear of being seen for who we truly are. And even though we long for a deeper connection to our true self and those around us, we are kept in a state of fearful imprisonment by the bellowing voice of self-doubt.
Our anxieties build around maintaining the facade of the person that we have offered up as ourselves.
We become so paralysed by this voice that it keeps us small and separate from our worth. It makes us fearful of the disconnection that our true self might cause, which validates that it is safer to remain in an unconscious state of loving and connecting. But there is another voice; albeit distant, that brings us a profound knowing that we could alleviate our longing for deeper connections. It calls for us to become more present and conscious in ourselves and to connect in a more authentic way. However, this voice can bring about just as much fear as the one of self-doubt. Because often we are unsure of what being present and conscious means or even feels like, as we have been detached from it for so long. It can have us scared of what it would mean to be released from the perceived anesthetised state our inauthenticity and unconscious ways have afforded us. And that if we were to awaken from the numbing affects, we would feel greater pain than what we experience when we are loving and connecting in our unconscious state.
The truth is they both bring pain and none is really greater than the other, but rather we feel and experience the pain differently, depending on which state we choose to live in – unconscious and unauthentic or conscious and authentic. The greatest difference is that one dims our light and keeps us from our worth, from what we deserve and from connecting in the way we innately long to connect. When we are present and conscious and are connected to our authenticity we deepen our knowledge of love, and through this, the connection to ourselves and others without having to compromise ones self.
Even when I am wading through my pain, being present and conscious allows me to connect to myself in a more truthful and loving way.
I am most present and conscious in myself when I have taken the time to honour myself, expand my unique feminine presence and appreciate my greatness and worth. This connects me to my authentic self and grants me an unspoken permission to be. When I enter this space I feel solid and safe. I feel open and more willing to be vulnerable with those that have earned the right to be its witness and can do this in return for another. Even when I am wading through my pain, being present and conscious allows me to connect to myself in a more truthful and loving way. And it is when I am present and conscious and aligned to my authentic self that the magic happens. The experiences flow, the answers come and the connections begin.
I love it when I enter this space! When I own it and take it all up with the realisation that my light is just as important as anyone else’s. It is when I am in this space that I shift from surface encounters and experience connections that are deeper and are more intrinsically aligned to who I am. In this space, the voice of self-doubt leaves me and it is replaced by a conscious curiosity of myself and others and the universe brings me into contact with the most incredible moments of synchronicity – a chance encounter, a unique viewpoint, a conversation had or overheard. All of which shine a light on and birth the potential for me to rethink my own thoughts, opinions, problems or simply act to deepen my understanding of another’s. These moments, one after the other, shift me further into conscious alignment with myself and unite me with experiences I am meant to have or put me in the path of those I am intended to meet. I welcome the unmistakeable directness of these encounters and the knowing that they serve to expand my understanding of others and deepen my connections through my conscious and authentic presence.
It is when I am in this space that I shift from surface encounters and experience connections that are deeper and are more intrinsically aligned to who I am.
So gorgeous woman; no matter what situation you are in today, tomorrow or next week, don’t be tempted to be unconscious to yourself and all that surrounds you. Choose to be present and conscious in the way that you love and connect. Honour yourself and expand into your unique feminine presence. Be willing to be vulnerable with those that you trust and watch as the magic unfolds. What messages do you receive? What deepens for you? How do those around you respond to you? And most importantly how do you feel when you step into the authentic and conscious YOU?
From my heart to yours