Why do we have this perception that because we do so much work on ourselves throughout our quest of self-transformation that we think we are immune to having our foundations shaken? Is it because we have linked the transformation of ourselves to the achievement of happiness and flow and that in the quest to find it, we have denied ourselves the acceptance of our stumbles and devalued the remaining gamut of feelings available to us to be able to deal with and manage the challenges that come during self-transformation? Is this why we are often left with a sense that if we are unable to achieve happiness and flow, there must be something wrong with us and that our process of self-transformation must be flawed?
My path to here has at times been chaotic and even traumatic, and even when I feel I am forging my way forward along my path of self-transformation and I have reached a point of equilibrium, when I am confronted with something I perceive to be a challenge to my state of happiness and flow, I feel my foundations shake and I get surprised EVERY SINGLE TIME! I find myself falling into the trap of thinking “why is this happening after all this hard work? Am I no further along in my transformation; am I no better equipped to handle this? Why can’t it just be easier and why can’t I just be happy?”
A huge shift in our reality can occur when we recognise that self-transformation is not exclusively aligned with a consistent state of happiness and flow.
The truth is no matter how much work we do we are not immune to the bumps in the road, to the challenges that will throw us into states of fear and have us clutching in desperation for happiness and flow. Life is not stagnant in its nature and we will always collide with challenges, which is why our natural state of being cannot be perpetual happiness and flow, no matter how transformed we are.
…and through accepting that in any given moment and sometimes all at once, that we are a student, teacher, and prophet and we are reminded that we are not failing in our transformation.
A huge shift in our reality can occur when we recognise that self-transformation is not exclusively aligned with a consistent state of happiness and flow. If we can accept this we can stop struggling and can surrender and really fall into the process of self-transformation. There is no denying that this is a raw and vulnerable place to be, but it is where we can call on every emotion within our spectrum to help us through our challenges. It is also where we can recognise that each emotion is valid and that at no point would any actually be valid, without the context of the others. How can you know happiness without sadness, success without failure, and love without heartbreak? Our challenges are only an invitation for us to expand further, and through accepting that in any given moment and sometimes all at once, that we are a student, teacher, and prophet and we are reminded that we are not failing in our transformation.
So STOP! Change the record and realise that this self-transformation gig is not about an exclusive relationship with happiness and flow, but a perpetual state of change where we can have our emotions and perceptions blown wide open at times, shaking our foundations. That we have not failed just because our foundations have been shaken or because we are not always happy and always in flow. We just need to recognise that without self-transformation we would not have the ability to recalibrate and readjust to the challenges we collide with. And that without the challenges we would not be able to expand and create new perceptions more fitting and flexible for the place we find ourselves in at any given time along our journey of self-transformation.
From my heart to yours